Phattu..in general...

Bravery-a virtue... why do we want to be the brave guy? Anyone comes and calls you a coward, you  feel bad.. why is that! What's the problem? Why does it feel so...derogatory?
And what exactly defines being a coward?
Sometimes, when we do the 'different' things,things that we want to do (or we are made to want to do them) we are called courageous. Else, Phattu.
Or sometimes the things we do not want to do, but we are forced to do them, in the name of something, and then if we do it, we are the daring, else, Phattu.

And of course, it should not be that everybody else is also doing those things. If many others are also doing those things, then we are not courageous because it is too common, right. We won't need to overcome any fear,or peer pressure to do those things.
And also, other people should want me to do those things. This is the main concern. Or else there won't be anybody to praise us..
If I commit a theft,or a murder, or a rape, then am I the courageous guy? No? But everybody doesn't do these things, and I am quite afraid before and while doing these things, and thus I am overcoming my fears, then am I not the courageous guy? Still I'm not! That is because I didn't do what you wanted me to do, right!?

You are a liar => you are a coward. (I devoted a whole post for this!)
You fight for your country => You're the man!
You run away from fights => Phattu
Ye kya baat hui yaar

You might just like/admire a person who you are calling the man, but let him be free, why to put a burden on him, that continue doing what you did, you're the man!
Similarly, hate somebody who is a liar, don't let him come near you,why insult him? Let him do what he likes to!
And why do you feel insulted if somebody calls you a phattu?

Looking closely, being a phattu is also somewhat courageous. Knowing that if I am being a coward, the whole world will despise me, insult me, but even then if I am being a coward.... I am being courageous.. (ye to bakwaas sa kuch ho gaya!)

Some people can even be manipulated using these words.. Just call him a phattu at something, and he will do anything you are asking him to.. given that he doesn't use his brain.

Heard somewhere: Conscience is for Cowards.
I would say, Conscience is for idiots(that's rude!, but I might also be one of these idiots). What is conscience? Whatever the 'intelligent' people have put in our minds, is usually referred to as conscience, or at least that is what I have found. So no cowardice involved here. (although I don't even know what is a coward!)
Pity is for weak. What is a weak?

Bravery might be praised, but I don't think it is the thing anybody should try to have, just because others want. And if you like being praised, and you are ready to be, to some extent, controlled by them, you can try being the brave one. I wouldn't mind. (As if you care!)

Pity

'Bechara Baccha, Hansne  Khelne ke Dino me Bheekh Maang rha hai'

What exactly are you doing? Who wants you to say that? The beggar boy doesn't want it. He wants money. For whom are you saying this? For your own self. I don't understand from where did this concept come from. We feel bad for beggars, because we think that we have more, and the beggar has less, that he got less opportunities. This is no reason. That is how the life is. Survival of the fittest. Why should we feel guilty for things we have got, the things that somebody else wants but doesn't have!
Oh! The Beggar has no money, he can't eat, how will he survive in this cruel world? By saying this, you are just satisfying yourself. But I can't understand what's getting satisfied.

If you really feel happy in seeing others happy, what you can do is give them money. Pity is the thing you might need to explain, at least to me. You might also want to send that little child to school. Do it, if it makes you happy. Don't do it if you have been made to feel happy.

You have your own problems in your life, the beggar has his own. If he doesn't know how to live, how to earn, he will die!(Please don't hate me for saying this :P) What's your problem? Why do you give him money? (or if you show pity, and don't give him the money, why don't you?) That money is just making you happy, but for the beggar you are just another bakra. He thanks you, because he wants that you shouldn't stop giving him the money. They invented dua for satisfying people, keeping them happy, or satisfying their ego, and getting money from them. Although nobody minds because everybody becomes happy :D

Take the handicaps. Without a hand, or a leg. Is pity the thing that they want? Why to treat them differently? Why to start trying to help him when he comes in front of you? I don't think he would want that. Everybody wants to be self-sufficient. Almost everybody can take care of himself.What he might want, is acceptance, as far as I believe.But if we care for he wants acceptance, then he is never getting it from us.(That was an important sentence) Being handicap is nothing different. Just a bit more difficult life, than with the leg or the hand.

Why show pity only to the poor and the beggars? Show it to me, to everybody in this world, who has something less than what you have! If somebody has enough money to live, or has every body part well sustained, this doesn't mean that he is happy enough... And it might be that that beggar is much happier than you are. (might not be content though)

We also pity animals. right? We give milk to stray dogs, bechara bhookha hai. The dog then wags its tail whenever it sees you again, for he wants the milk again.. vo bhi to harami(as generally defined) hi hai... (hamari tarah...)
If you can give food to that dog, and you don't give food or money to a beggar, maybe almost dying on the street, you might need to explain.
Some people say, ki khaane ke liye paise maang rha hai daaru me uda dega. Why does it matter to you? Can you decide what will make that man happy? or are you only concerned about the fact that he must have only food using the money that you give him? So, in a way, his happiness doesn't matter to you, but yours does...? And I take it as a fact.. that its your happiness that matters to you, whether you admit it or not, to yourself or the world. So if you are really interested in seeing others happy, please buy him a bottle of whiskey, and you'll see the happiest man on earth!
But if you are giving him the food instead, I think, and hope, by now you might have realized that its only you who is getting satisfied. So why get satisfied in lending your, or your dad's hard earned money to a person, who is just taking it!
PS: I expect some disagreements on this topic. Plz tell me something I could not think of.