Bravery-a virtue... why do we want to be the brave guy? Anyone comes and calls you a coward, you feel bad.. why is that! What's the problem? Why does it feel so...derogatory?
And what exactly defines being a coward?
Sometimes, when we do the 'different' things,things that we want to do (or we are made to want to do them) we are called courageous. Else, Phattu.
Or sometimes the things we do not want to do, but we are forced to do them, in the name of something, and then if we do it, we are the daring, else, Phattu.
And of course, it should not be that everybody else is also doing those things. If many others are also doing those things, then we are not courageous because it is too common, right. We won't need to overcome any fear,or peer pressure to do those things.
And also, other people should want me to do those things. This is the main concern. Or else there won't be anybody to praise us..
If I commit a theft,or a murder, or a rape, then am I the courageous guy? No? But everybody doesn't do these things, and I am quite afraid before and while doing these things, and thus I am overcoming my fears, then am I not the courageous guy? Still I'm not! That is because I didn't do what you wanted me to do, right!?
You are a liar => you are a coward. (I devoted a whole post for this!)
You fight for your country => You're the man!
You run away from fights => Phattu
Ye kya baat hui yaar
You might just like/admire a person who you are calling the man, but let him be free, why to put a burden on him, that continue doing what you did, you're the man!
Similarly, hate somebody who is a liar, don't let him come near you,why insult him? Let him do what he likes to!
And why do you feel insulted if somebody calls you a phattu?
Looking closely, being a phattu is also somewhat courageous. Knowing that if I am being a coward, the whole world will despise me, insult me, but even then if I am being a coward.... I am being courageous.. (ye to bakwaas sa kuch ho gaya!)
Some people can even be manipulated using these words.. Just call him a phattu at something, and he will do anything you are asking him to.. given that he doesn't use his brain.
Heard somewhere: Conscience is for Cowards.
I would say, Conscience is for idiots(that's rude!, but I might also be one of these idiots). What is conscience? Whatever the 'intelligent' people have put in our minds, is usually referred to as conscience, or at least that is what I have found. So no cowardice involved here. (although I don't even know what is a coward!)
Pity is for weak. What is a weak?
Bravery might be praised, but I don't think it is the thing anybody should try to have, just because others want. And if you like being praised, and you are ready to be, to some extent, controlled by them, you can try being the brave one. I wouldn't mind. (As if you care!)
And what exactly defines being a coward?
Sometimes, when we do the 'different' things,things that we want to do (or we are made to want to do them) we are called courageous. Else, Phattu.
Or sometimes the things we do not want to do, but we are forced to do them, in the name of something, and then if we do it, we are the daring, else, Phattu.
And of course, it should not be that everybody else is also doing those things. If many others are also doing those things, then we are not courageous because it is too common, right. We won't need to overcome any fear,or peer pressure to do those things.
And also, other people should want me to do those things. This is the main concern. Or else there won't be anybody to praise us..
If I commit a theft,or a murder, or a rape, then am I the courageous guy? No? But everybody doesn't do these things, and I am quite afraid before and while doing these things, and thus I am overcoming my fears, then am I not the courageous guy? Still I'm not! That is because I didn't do what you wanted me to do, right!?
You are a liar => you are a coward. (I devoted a whole post for this!)
You fight for your country => You're the man!
You run away from fights => Phattu
Ye kya baat hui yaar
You might just like/admire a person who you are calling the man, but let him be free, why to put a burden on him, that continue doing what you did, you're the man!
Similarly, hate somebody who is a liar, don't let him come near you,why insult him? Let him do what he likes to!
And why do you feel insulted if somebody calls you a phattu?
Looking closely, being a phattu is also somewhat courageous. Knowing that if I am being a coward, the whole world will despise me, insult me, but even then if I am being a coward.... I am being courageous.. (ye to bakwaas sa kuch ho gaya!)
Some people can even be manipulated using these words.. Just call him a phattu at something, and he will do anything you are asking him to.. given that he doesn't use his brain.
Heard somewhere: Conscience is for Cowards.
I would say, Conscience is for idiots(that's rude!, but I might also be one of these idiots). What is conscience? Whatever the 'intelligent' people have put in our minds, is usually referred to as conscience, or at least that is what I have found. So no cowardice involved here. (although I don't even know what is a coward!)
Pity is for weak. What is a weak?
Bravery might be praised, but I don't think it is the thing anybody should try to have, just because others want. And if you like being praised, and you are ready to be, to some extent, controlled by them, you can try being the brave one. I wouldn't mind. (As if you care!)
Poor English yet again. Nice concept though. But I daresay that if someone is doing something stupid (stupid according to you, Mr. Blogger), just to prove his mettle in the eyes of others, then he's doing that to make himself happy, which he will achieve once he achieves the 'daring' task and receives the praise of others who seemingly manipulated him. So in effect, he's doing it for his own happiness, and I don't think anything else matters against that. And if someone is calling others PHATTU for the things that HE thinks are daring, then I would say it depends on everyone's perception. And everyone has the irrevocable right to freedom of thoughts.
ReplyDelete"he's doing it for his own happiness"
ReplyDeletebingo!! that's what it is! it seems as false happiness to me. if he was not being forced to be a brave guy from his peers, he might have been happier. Though doesn't matter to me :D
perception is fine. read the paragraph --> "You might just like/admire"....
Shiv Kumar Malik:
ReplyDeleteNeeraj you are 3rd person I have ever met who has such deep thoughts.
But as a friend let me give you another true remark.... if you study Evolutionary Psychology a little bit you will get true answers to your questions...... Your thoughts are vague but contain depth.... Thoughts will become much clear if you study and have knowledge about human psychology.... Answers will flow in..
I hope u will read this post some day.
I am quite clear about the things I have written in this post, most probably I have not been able to convey them properly. And I'll surely read that thing... Evolutionary Psychology...
ReplyDeleteVery interesting blog. A lot of blogs I see these days don't really provide anything that attract others, but I'm most definitely interested in this one. Just thought that I would post and let you know.
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