Is happiness real when shared?

To be happy or to be 'seen' as happy. That is the question. Or is it that we are happy 'only' when seen as happy? and some people mind the lies, and some don't.

The above happens if people don't mind the lies. And that is a common practice as far as I have seen.

What I believe

When I say dig for reasons, the digging has to end somewhere. Anything which is presented as an argument needs to have a reason. I have to reach some 'premise' which is acceptable  by all (or most). What would be that premise?

I 'believe' what I can sense from my sensory organs. What i can see, hear, touch, smell (that too only if it coincides with what others sense) . And what I feel, what comes from within me. I might feel I like music. I might feel I hate somebody. I might feel I want something. Only these things form the basis of my arguments. (And I (we) argue only for things that I believe or disbelieve.)

(Some people 'feel' God. I found out that the 'feel' God because they 'believe' in God. It should be the other way round!)

And one more thing. Facts based on experimental analysis. If something has happened 90 out of 100 times, it has to be accepted as a fact. If I prayed for 10 days for a different thing everyday, and all 10 wished came true, and any other reason doesn't seem valid, then I would start believing that prayers help.

(And it surely is not a matter of perspective or opinion. Perspective also brings reasons with it. Perspective comes when the premises differ. It is the case where no further argument can be made and neither side wins.)

I ask a simple question. 'Do you want to believe the truth or not?'. I say I 'want' to, and if you say that you are not interested in that and you can believe anything you want, then this argument ends! No further argument can be made. But if you say yes (which everybody i have asked, does), this means that the premise is same. But still our final arguments differ. (say, about the existence of God. We want to believe in truth, and you believe in God. But I don't see any reason to, so I don't believe in God.). This means either one of us has made a mistake in reasoning between the premise and the final argument. To find out that flaw, we argue. Whichever side finds the mistake in its argument has to change its final argument. (though i don't see that happening :P)

I'd like to cite a simple example. Suppose it rains, but we didn't know that clouds strike and stuff and that causes rain. We'll try unlearn some stuff and assume, that before somebody proposed that God of water (jal devta :D) is causing the rain, somebody else proposed that there are aliens outside this planet. They live somewhere else and they are there to 'help' us. They have plenty of water, and they are donating that water to us.
Doesn't this explanation seem fine? Its weird, and stupid, but matches the current arguments.
(we now discard that the God is causing rain, we say that air is moved by the God, which moves clouds, and then rain happens due to collision of clouds.) We have 'aliens', some'body' to take care of us in our times of need. It gives us hope, and we don't mind if it is false hope. So. from now on we'll believe that aliens cause rain. Can you do that? (I have been hearing that unlearning is a bigger problem than learning. Now I think that's true.)
Fire was God before we knew about friction. Why? It helps us in making food, and it scares us because it burns us. Every such thing had been a God. But now that we know of friction, we call ourselves 'non-superstitious' and this boils down to 'god is one', and fire is not one of them.You are still superstitious. (as if you care :D)

Either some  people have decided what is good for us to believe and have passed on those things to us, or some people wanted to control other people (as says ayn rand in the fountainhead), that's why they made us believe the stuff they wanted us to believe.
I don't think we want anybody else to decide what's good for us, neither do we want anybody to control us. So, why believe?

Abortion. what's the problem?

(If somebody considers abortion as 'killing' somebody, then the following lines are invalid.)

Somebody wants a boy, but there is a girl inside her womb. Why to bring her into the world when he (they) doesn't want it! Parents make children for themselves. Not for the sake of balancing the number of girls and boys in the world. Social service karne thode na nikle hain.

I watched Bol. The protagonist says 'paal nahi sakte to paida kyun karte ho'. She is so right! Don't give birth to girls if you don't want them. Yours and the girl's lives might be doomed.

Killing children before they are born doesn't seem as a 'bad' thing to me. Whether it be a girl or a boy.

Farz karo, Khuda hai.

Suppose one day somebody proves that God exists. There is something or somebody which is running the world and to whom we can pray and who/which can listen. Would that prove that you (you= theists) were correct in the first place? Would it be right for you to say ' i told you so' ? No it won't be!

What I am saying now is that since we have not proved that existence of God, so I won't believe in it. What you (theists) say is that God exists. You argue, you lose the argument (or start bringing up absurd arguments) but don't stop believing, which you should. Beliefs are always based on logic. We can't believe what we 'want' to believe. (Unless you are disinterested in truth).

But if tomorrow we found out that God exists, and then you start to think that you were so right and I was wrong, I would still call you a moron (harsh word, replace with a softer one. I have a bad vocab).

Suppose, once there were two sets of people. One who believed that earth is round, the other who believed that earth is flat. Just like that, No reasons. Both sets are idiots. But when some guy travels across the ocean, he comes to know that earth is round. Does that mean the first set of people was right?

I am saying all this because I have heard people telling me, that one day you will realize that God exists, and then you will regret saying all this. I am just clarifying beforehand.

Bhagat Singh ki jai ho

Bhagat singh was hanged till death a few years before this day. Everybody says he was a true hero. The Martyr. Everybody praising him today and everyday whenever his name comes up. Give him 'respect', because he gave his 'life'.
I was thinking of why would anybody give his life for 'others'? one more mad bro? He gave his life for the nation, and he was proud of this fact while he lived. He probably considered it a humanly, and heavenly, and the righteous thing to do. But why was that? I believe that would be because of the shit others would have planted in his brain. Die for your country, that would make you a true jatta or something.

Fine, his own wish. Somebody wants to give his life for me, and wants what in return.. respect? Take it man!! Every ounce of it!! Why would I refuse!

What we do today? We say Bhagat Singh was a hero. The man gave his life for us. Hats off to him. What does it make us? We are saying that it was the right thing to do! We are promoting the fact that people should die for others! If I want to make my life better, then I better work for it myself. Else call my self a harami.

(We all know that Bhagat Singh was well educated, and sort of a leader, and that's why assuming that he was logical, would be a justified assumption for the following stuff)
What we believe about bhagat singh is what we are shown in the movies and what our elders teach us. Why do these have to be true? Maybe Bhagat Singh wanted to live in and independent India and that was why he was working for it. That is completely justified, because he was working for himself, and letting people know that they should also for the same cause as it was for them too. (That is why Arvind kejriwal and anna team are doing) But when he would have realized that he was to hang with his neck inside a loop, he would have been scared man!! Dying is not a good thing! All pride and honor would come to rest when it comes to death..!
But our elders didn't want to project him as a person who is afraid, or who is a coward... (which would  not have been a problem at all) maybe because they wanted to produce more heroes as bhagat singh, they might have wanted to see more and more martyrs who would die for their country men. If we had known a different reality that Bhagat Singh was afraid, and he tried to escape or he fell into the feet of jailer then he wouldn't have got  the respect that he gets now! (Although he wouldn't know he gets nothing coz he's dead :P)

So soldiers, please die for me. What happens if our country didn't have the armed forces? It would have been a blunder, chaos or dependence on some other country as it was before 1947.
I don't want somebody to die for me, and I also want independence. But I myself don't work for my independence. Deadlock.

Make myself better?

What can this thing possibly mean... 'Make myself better'? One more thing that has been forced upon us.

The only thing that I can be, is myself! How can better or worse be defined? The problem is, from the start itself we are given the valuable advice of being a better person, and some points which I must follow for being better. I should think this, I shouldn't think that, and all that. That takes away what I am, from me. If we were left undisturbed since our birth, not a single thought to pollute our mind, and we were left to just learn from our own experiences, then we would have been the best persons, and not just the better. But I don't know how to do that, doesn't seem practical sometimes.

A person who doesn't care about others is not worse than the one who does, a person who cries when he sees somebody else in pain is no better than the one who might just laugh. But we have not been taught so. People have bent our minds in a direction where they wanted, whatever might be their purpose, but our minds are now at unrest. They have defined 'good things' and 'bad things' for us. And, alas, we have followed.

Read somewhere: "I don't change, I just become more of myself." That is the only criteria of being better, according to me. Some people see their aim as becoming a better person day by day. But I am quite disappointed to see that their criteria is as defined by others.

Either you are Optimistic, or you are not.
Either you respect somebody, or you don't.
Ether you love somebody or you don't.
and so on. These are the things which your 'heart' tells you. Or in correct words, your 'intuition' tells you. You just 'know' what you want! These 'wants' make us 'us'.
But we have to force ourselves to be ourselves. What could be worse.

PS: One more thing that be done, according to me, is to be a bit more 'logical'. To not have contradicting beliefs. i.e. To believe in only the things which can be deduced logically. If you don't do it, you already contradict yourself.

These are called...coincidences.

I and my 3 friends are talking in pizza hut. All about the magic and stuff that might exist around us. One woman comes in, with center-shock type of hairstyle, a tilak and three white horizontal lines on the forehead. Black clothes, kind of a gown, and a maala around the neck. We could easily call her a tantrik. (According to 'rights of admission reserved' she shouldn't have been allowed inside :P) We were surprised. Staring at her and smiling. Would you say that since we were talking of the similar supernatural kinda stuff, that would be the reason for the arrival of our tantrik? We talk about this stuff many times, but this happened only once! So, a coincidence.
One more thing happened, of which I am not sure I remember too well. The bill amount at the pizza hut was '786'! (this is some holy number of muslims afaik) . That bill was in my friend's pocket. Rainfall on our way back, and the digits 7,8 and 6 got washed away in the rain :D

 There is a friend, who is a 'jain'. Pigeons are related to jains in some way i don't know. And he says, that every week on a particular day a group of pigeons visits his house :D (Though I believe he was lying to prove his point, that god exists :D)

Let's Rock it \m/

I went to mehandipur balaji. And of course, a don't believe any such thing exists. I went there, and saw women doing weird stuff with their heads and hair. A huge crowd going mad for darshan. There was this belief that when you are exiting the temple, you throw everything you have in your hands behind your back, and run out of the temple without looking back. But I did look back ( :P ) many times. While returning home,
1) I got the news of my result :D
2) The result was a disaster.
3) I couldn't see my result because I was not home.
4) I reached home, and my internet wasn't working.
5) My PC was not working.
6) Some stuff had happened to electric wires, and the electricity was also kind of irritating.
Balaji is known for its 'prakop', which might have resulted in these 'bad things' happening to me.
But I still call these things 'coincidences' :D

the expression

I had a plan to go to vaishnodevi. 6 of us. Tickets were to be booked. I was suffering from high fever and back ache that day, but I still went to watch a movie. (Rab ne bana di jodi, vo bhi is halat me!) I went to see the doctor on my way back. He declared Chicken pox. Chicken pox is known as 'maata' in Hindi,I guess  the same maata that sits at vaishnodevi causes chicken pox. I couldn't go to vaishnodevi of course. It is said, that you'll visit vaishnodevi only when maata calls you :D Mera katta ho gaya.
It is also said that chicken pox happens only once in life, or at least after a gap pf 20 years because the anti bodies remain in the body. But maata made an exception for me. I was suffering from the disease the 2nd time. (Doctor said nowadays it can happen the third time too. The disease is quite irritating. So, I shouldn't plan another visit to vaishnodevi :D)

Nothing else has ever happened with me that could create the slightest of the doubts.

Do what you Love??

I'll still not be a broken anda

 It would be the best for me if I can pursue the thing that I love doing, professionally. I would be given money for enjoying myself!
But does it mean that that is the only thing I must pursue to earn money? else I would perish?

We would usually like to follow our love because it would lead to success! (here, success=fame + money) Assuming that you are good at what you love, there is some probability that you would reach success. But for that probability to be high, we do need to consider others factors too..

You need to be ready for struggle, you must be passionate for success so that you do not leave your battle before reaching your goal which here is success, you need to keep in mind that there are thousands more like you in the same field who might be ready to struggle, you need to see whether others are interested in your passion or not, whether you make the right choices at the right time, meet the right people at the right time, whether or not you are farsighted and so on... many of them.. But the excessive want of success seems to be the most prominent to me.

If you want to do the thing that you love, you can do it anyway, while doing something else as a profession. If you crave to be famous for that particular thing, the you are wanting success, not following your passion.If besides you passion, you are also craving for success, then you can use the passion to pursue the success! Then come all those suggestions of being optimistic, not losing hope, fight till the end to reach your goals and so on..

Now comes another thing. If we don't pursue our passions professionally, then we would be doing something else for money. Something, that we do not love but we are good at. If you do something that you are good at, I don't think you would mind doing it. And that may also lead to money. (That's what I would be doing :P)
I would not be doing something like this if I'll not be able to show it to anybody. I'll be doing this thing only if others will admire it (if I like admiration) or they give me money (if I like money) or both (if I like both). And in all these cases, I would be satisfied, I believe.

We invest something, to get something we want. The point is, whether we like the investment or not. If we do, nothing's better.

(It might seem that I am seeking excuses for not-struggling, and there's some negative thinking I am promoting here, but I don't think that that is the case.)